The girls this year made special drawings of them and their daddy. They also thoughtfully filled out a questionnaire on how well they know him!! Highlights included Maria saying "Daddy is 10 lbs and 2 feet tall, because he has 2 feet.... Daddy is really good at...eating.... My favorite time with daddy was when we went to work and he showed me the whole universe!!" and Christina saying " Daddy is really good at... math problems and If Daddy were an animal he'd be a black horse because he has black notty dreds"
That was my Mom's Father's Day card to Joe.
Father's Day was quite lovely. Sacrament Meeting at church had a wonderful speaker who quoted Elder Uchtdorf, "How do you spell love? T-I-M-E." I must say, our daddy has made lots of time for us lately and it is bliss. The girls run to him everyday after work, screeching and happy. Every night he puts them to bed, reading books and scriptures and singing songs/hymns.
When we were first dating, we had the opportunity to babysit one of his friend's little 2 year old. It was definitely a critical moment for me. I love children, he said he did too... but how does he react to them? Does he treat them as individuals important in the world or as fun play things to be enjoyed here and there? Well, not only did he play with that little boy, but he talked to him like a person and when he started crying when we put him to bed- Joe looked to me as to what we should do. He didn't once say, let him just cry. He'll be fine. He watched as I sat with him until he fell asleep. I'll never forget how impressed I was with him. But not only that, also when we were dating, I'd take him to my mom's classroom and he'd be out there talking Spanish with the kids and kicking the ball higher than a 2 story house while the kids went crazy with happiness. Yes, many things have changed within our 9 years of being married, 11 years knowing each other... but one thing remains constant and true, and it's that he's just a super kind, gentle and loving person devoted to children.
I wish I could take full credit for how wonderful our children our, but really Heavenly Father has sent us angels. As a mere loving guide in this life, I'm so grateful for a companion who also knows and fulfills his role. To say Joe is a good provider is an understatement. He's never once let our family down. We've never had for want of food or clothes. And most importantly, there has never been a single time in life where we couldn't look to him for a blessing or spiritual advice. He leads our family in prayers, he teaches by example and is always giving us everything. I can take full credit for choosing well when it came to a spouse.
Often my girls will hear me saying, "Never marry a man who...." or "Marry a man who...". I'm grateful that it's not just idle words. That they can look to their daddy, see how he treats us, and find a worthy priesthood holder who is deserving of them based on their experience. But... we don't have to worry about that for 30 years or so.
I don't wish to ruin a post by bringing up depressing dead weight. But I feel it's important to recognize the role of Heavenly Father in Joe's life. His dad is like Abraham's dad, you know the one who tried to kill him and sacrifice him to pagan gods. Kind of scummy and pukey, though I know I have no right to judge. I just find it amazing that he was able to survive and grow through his childhood, watched over by angels, and turn to the Lord. While I am very grateful for my husband and dad, I'm even more grateful to a loving and all knowing Heavenly Father. Who takes care of his children. Who helps and refines them. Who sets the perfect example and who we can turn to always. He loves us. In a world where we can be tempted to say, there is too much tribulation, there is too much evil, there is no God... we have the right to bend on knee, pray and find out the truth. We are divine children of our Divine Maker. I look at my husband and see him in his role as a father and know that it is not just some coincidence that he is the wonderful man he is. He is a great father because he has a great Father in Heavenly Father and chooses to follow Him.